This study also covers the marriage to Christ relationship staying faithful to Him as wise Holy Spiritual virgin, not fornicating/cheating with satan, claiming to be Christ/God. Once we view that correctly we will view marriage correctly and know, understand, respect The LORD, in marriage. Because I cover that most of the time on depth I won't here. This is going to sting and it needs be. Way it is, way it's going to be. So much in here. God bless those who receive it.
(Matthew 19:1-12) "And it came to pass, that when Jesus had finished these sayings, he departed from Galilee, and came into the coasts of Judaea beyond Jordan;
(Christ and the disciples and the crowd now heading southward to Jerusalem, eventually here).
2And great multitudes followed him; and he healed them there.
3The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause (for any old thing)?
(Pure haters we see. Healing(s), miracles, people coming to truth, teaching of freedom, and forgiveness of sins a miserable person hates. They felt sorry in worldly sadness here because they were not getting the worship).
Oh how did the pharisees hate that. The very Word Himself, teaching the actual Word). They of course leave gnashing the teeth now, and to come. Not much of a reward? Gnash in this life and to come.
This tempting is a sin(s) in itself. To maliciously test a person in condescending mockery trying to trip them up, like entrapment (pride, narcissistic ego, the world revolves around them). Setting people up for or to do evil that they would not normally do. Cross reference; James 1:13-15. This is obviously not love, good will for people. Salvation and growing in God's Word for people. But yet, the pharisees will cry mercy, of course.
Christ had already taught this we know at least once, they knew it already, but could not comprehend. They were using prior words to try to twist. That is what a seething pharisee lying in wait does.
4And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female,
(Back to the basics in simple creation and God's Will! Y'all are really teachers? Genesis 1 and 2 Christ is teaching here. Everything God created a person to be in their gender, next to their gender "roles", verse 5).
5And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?
(Who you put first in life. As it must be God's order. To be an example flowing outward. Notice it does not say put kids first. Put kids first and kids are then teaching. Of course, some are in situation where that must be, that's as it is, ok). I will leave it here. Because you are a bitter hater of other gender, does not mean you go against God in what should be natural and natural affection. Don't cross this line to bitterness. Firmly rooted in and at the cross from everything received there. Past errors, sins, we repent for our part, if and whatever that was and is, forgive the rest (which don't mean let it happen again, also not used as a scapegoat). God wants blame assigned correctly, then repented. Easy peasy). Alsp, always directed at men as they are to be the spiritual leader(s).
6Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
(Who cares what man's says in the very foundation basics in who God created a person to be and family on outward. Some man playing God getting in between God and in people's business next).
7They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?
8He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.
(Would not open their heart to let God and His Word actually speak to them. Directing this right at them for trying to trip up. The Christ haters, now talmud worshipers, off springs of the serpent, the same. Works of their fathers, even worse now). Because sin came into the world through that serpent, (satan himself), Genesis 3:1-15). Once again, we see Christ teaching from Genesis 1, 2, and 3 in order).
9And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
So much to touch on here. We will go into some of everything...First let me go read where it says to make outcast, look down upon divorcee. and they repented. You see obvious change in heart and mind? But yet living by the paper too? Let them ask themselves as an example. Let's say at age of 18 were you in on the game? Doing the Royal law? Did you give your word to someone but excuse yourself because living by the paper? Yes. we're breaking this down. Because you cannot be trusted. now they know what to repent from. Stop playing Church. I know some won't like that. We just don't like directional responsibility. Then we don't really like Jesus, let alone love. This is for your own good.
(Cheating and also that which would keep a person from believing and worshiping The LORD. As Christ taught in Matthew 5:22 and on, from the very beginning of His Ministry on earth. The very first thing He addressed in the second commandment of the Royal Law there, to do. The Ten commandments to convict us of truth. I also have seen false teaching God don't convict. Stop thumping and get to humping in learning the basics. Means to be convicted of truth belief. Pisteuo from the Greek. There is a famous preacher teaching this now. I mean absolute Biblically illterate claiming grace through faith. But we just deduced a pharisee in action).
This is of course to stop giving and taking in commitment, viewing, using others as something disposable, then onto the next. EVIL. A revolving circus here. We see this now? Giving and taking warm ups, flesh arrangements "engagements." Then say, Love me for my mind. Then people don't want to be held accountable for it. Will absolutely now own up to their own motives from the get go, or living marriage fairy-tale portrayed in movies. Find out, this is going to take some give and take in actual unselfishness. Men, being servant minded putting flesh aside for one as Christ did for the Church, and fornication won't happen. Women follow that lead. Way it is. Good reasons? We see the absolute decay and destruction of society, where we have now walking from gender in who God created a person to be and how they are to live, as a team, in equal yoked sense, in peace.
There are of course, variables here. Was so and so Christian at said time. The implication here is of course a person would be Christian and already following God's law(s). In the opposite no excuse to be made. Divorce also is NOT the unpardonable sin.
Also, cheating/fornication/adultery is the one sin many times where the victim blames themselves (my fault, not good enough, GOD DESPISES THIS, as pointed out, blamed assigned correctly) (though you are the victim that cannot be used as justification to make others victim, after gone bitter. Making a gender hater. Once again, cannot have good will for people towards salvation and growing in God's Word.
Conclusion: No one gets to say, I cheated because they feel the inadequacy of the other person. Two Christians? Need to be real with each other, in honesty. Pray for what is missing, pray for answers. Come to peace through God and His Word. Restrain until that is done.
Some also need to stop serving religion. Actually, saying to self as beliefs, that marriage begins on a piece of paper, wrong! It begins at your word, in honesty and commitment. You don't get to say I'm going to marry you on paper, hold off while they are actually continuing the search, EVIL. If a piece of paper determines whether you do right and/or wrong you cannot be serving and doing for Jesus Christ. The paper is recognized outward, and is good because this country (until now but decreasing as judgment on it's head, don't like that? Don't do it, live to love like emoticon From the very heart to mind) has been able to bless with benefits if something happens such as death, in security. Yes, that is a blessing when used for good. Easy peasy.
I did not really cover the spiritual aspect here, as mentioned. Being the bride of Christ and applying that. That is what it's all about, seeing that first. Then viewing and seeing each other in marriage commitment relationship the same. Per Ephesians 5 as well. We go over that quite enough. Don't be caught nakes fornicated with satan such as the foolish spiritual virgins. So please look into that relationship first, then we can do outward towards our own first, then outward to the world. Being an example, and for Jesus Christ. I highly respect those who have been committed marriage for a long time. They dig deep, know what's it all about. Younger? You need to look at that. But first, before we ever get to that make sure you have gender assignment correct, or you can FORGET ABOUT IT. This is how twisted things are. God's law so far away, cannot even feel correctly. That ends at belief/repentance. Love grown cold to bitterness, to gender hatred, is a lamp flickering at best. In danger of becoming that foolish virgin; Matthew 25.
All avenues should be exhausted before divorce. But (the clause), forgiveness is blotted out and IS NOT THE UNPARDONABLE SIN. Must be pointed out in recent case of country clerk. Some others wanted to hang her. Refer above. Stop being a pharisee thumper condemner. Oh I would not want to be in the shoes someone God has forgiven, but they do not. satan is with them. We just went through this; Matthew 18:21-35. Some cases they will need to actual learn salvation correctly. Other cases, taken back to their very foundation from the previous to be humbled as we see. Humility before honor. You guessed it. Do not let me see condemnation of repentant Christian. The very first thing satan does as accuser. Make sure satan is not working through you.
10His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry.
11But he said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given.
12For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it."
(Three reasons here: Amazing? Also in the number 3. What do we see here? Birth, death, and resurrection. Now Christ deals with what God says. SOME are born that way (not as silly wanna be know-nothing counselors, politicians, judges, etc. who are confused about gender themselves). The first is for their protection. As we know and should trust that God is all for our own protection, from before as well. He knew us before the womb. Our soul and spirit from the first age, then placed in the womb at conception. Going through the flesh, ONCE).